Gardens: A Harvest of Learning No Matter the Season

Gardens—spring, summer, or fall—harvest plentiful learning activities. Seems like every time we turn around we are enjoying another experience involving fruits and veggies. Here's a sampling of possibilities, and likely your learners will discover others. Enjoy the harvest no matter what the season.

Math

• Estimate the weight of a watermelon. Weigh on a bathroom scale. Figure out the price per paid per pound.

• Purchase a five pound bag of potatoes. Compare the quantity with a five pound bag of onions. Why the difference in quantity per pound? Younger children can weigh potatoes and arrange from lightest to heaviest.

• Buy a basket full of veggies. Sort according to what part of the plant is eaten: stem, leaf, seed, root, flower. Eat vegetables for snack or create a yummy soup.

Language Arts

• Read Growing Vegetable Soup by Lois Ehlert. Make veggie soup for dinner.

• Read the Farm Alphabet Book by Jane Miller. Make your own fruits and veggies alphabet book.

• Identify the beginning consonant sounds of each vegetable purchased.

• Read Eating the Alphabet: Fruits and Vegetables from A to Z by Lois Ehlert.

• Read Stone Soup by Marcia Brown (a traditional tale).

• Read Tops and Bottoms by Janet Stevens (a trickster tale).

• Read The Tiny Seed by Eric Carle.

Spanish

• Learn the Spanish words for common fruits and vegetables

Social Studies

• Tour the produce section of the grocery store.

• Visit a working farm, garden store, orchard, local U-pick or greenhouse.

Science

• Plant a garden.

• Build a grow box and sow the family’s favorite seeds.

• Spout seeds. Discuss vocabulary: seeds, seedlings, cuttings, sprout, germinate.

• Read The Vegetables We Eat by Gail Gibbons

• Read Green Beans, Potatoes, and Even Tomatoes by Brian Cleary

• Read One Bean by Anne Rockwell.

• Sprout an avocado seed.

• Grow or purchase a pie pumpkin. Open. Clean. Bake. Puree pumpkin and make bread.

• Read The Life Cycle of a Bean by Linda Tagliaferro.

• Read Foods from Farms by Nancy Dickmann.

• Read Plants on a Farm by Nancy Dickmann.

• Read Farming by Gail Gibbons. Discuss farming around the world.

• Read From Seed to Plant by Gail Gibbons.

• Read Planting a Rainbow by Lois Ehlert.

• Read The Victory Garden Vegetable Alphabet Book by Jerry Pallotta.

Arts

• Make prints using tempera paints and fruits and veggies (potato, cabbage, celery, corn, and oranges)

• Read Linnea in Monet's Garden by Christina Bjork.

• Make a seed collage.

• Sing Oats, Peas, Beans and Barley Grow. Act out the song with motions.

• Read How Are You Peeling? by Joost Effers and Saxton Freymann. Discuss the illustrations. Children may also enjoy Fast Food by the same authors.

Movement

• Play Hot Potato (hand-eye coordination)

Helping Middle Schoolers Move Toward College and Career

At a recent outing, I fielded a common--and becoming more common--question.

"How can I get my middle schooler college-ready?"

I heard the immediacy in the mom's voice.  I also heard the fear. Fear of failure, of not doing enough. This mom was looking for the one right answer, the right formula. I wanted, with all my heart, to give her a solid, tried and true answer. But, I couldn't.

As a mom of past middlers, a mentor of parents who've trod this path and a wife of a twenty-seven year veteran middle school teacher, I could only offer this mom insight to potential considerations; insights from our experiences and the experience of other parents we knew. And, perhaps those insights could set her on the next right step for HER child. 

College was still five years away.

I reminded her changes would take place. Physical development and brain maturation would continue. I told her to seek insight but be wise, discerning, to ponder possibilities, not taking the first opinions or ideas tossed her way. 

I encouraged her to embrace the current season, less she miss it worrying about tomorrows. 

I affirmed middle school is indeed about content and skills, but it is even more about the relationship between parent and young adult, the middle schooler's interests and what captures the middle schoolers heart.

Walking alongside the ingenious, changing person, being present and willing to process ideas and aspiration, helping her middle schooler discover gifts, strengths and areas of growth would impact who her middle schooler would become. 

• Reflecting upon the young adult's interests. What are the current interests? How does he or she spend free time? What activities does the young adult find fulfilling? In our experience, these interests helped determine course selection and extra-curricular choices as high school approached and then became reality.

• Anticipating interests which might still be hidden, yet to be discovered. What does the middle schooler wish to try or experience in the next few years? Mike and I came to realize early in our middle school parenting experience that the lesser known interests were just as important as the obvious talents and strengths. In fact, several of our then middlers found the lesser known to be more influential in planning their next steps toward high school.

• Considering how the middle schooler learns best. Does learning happen best outdoors? Is there greater retention in independent study or experiential opportunities? Our middle schoolers have ALL learned differently. Every. Single. One. One needed quiet. Another needed hands-on experiences. Yet another needed creative outlets. How middlers learn best matters.

• Learning study preferences. These are different than learning preferences. These are things like note taking, skimming and scanning, and study skills. Would 3 x 5 cards with vocabulary words penned opposite side definition work better than an online auditory drill game? Or would the oral input be more beneficial? Is a word web better than outlining because a visual image is saved by the brain? What about taking notes in color? Study preferences become key components of learning when higher learning becomes focused or must be time efficient.

• Focusing on the development of soft skills. We have found soft skills were more difficult to acquire and internalize than learning Algebra formulas, but were increasingly more important to our young adults in high school and post-secondary education. Is the student working to be more independent, more able to solve problems independently but also proficient in working with other people in collaborative projects? Was the young adult able to self-govern emotions, choices and attitudes? Parents can only control choices, attitudes and time management for a time. We found our young adults, as well as the young adults we work with, must be academically ready for college but even more importantly, be ready emotionally and spiritually.

• Processing tough questions. Middle schoolers face challenges. Hormones. Friends. Disappointment. Middle schoolers need both encouragement and grace to navigate those challenges, as well as plenty of opportunities to make mistakes and regroup. Mike and I have found it essential to be available to field questions and process possible scenarios. This processing was key to moral and social development of our children.

As my time with my friend came to an end, I knew there was much more that could be said on the subject, and likely ideas I hadn't considered or experienced. I reminded the mom there would be as many opinions as there were options.  

I knew she could find the answers she needed today as well as for the questions of the many tomorrows yet to come, however multi-faceted they might be.

And, with a hug, I told her she was the best mom to find the answers for her middle schooler and that she would find answers by wisely seeking and pondering; though the process may not be easy or comfortable. 

She knew college was on the horizon, but the answers were in the questions of her todays.

Fun and Easy Ways to Teach Telling Time

“I want to learn to tell time!”

Interest means “I am all in and listening!”

I went to find our student, geared clock purchased at an educational resource store. It’s pretty, with gears and moving hands. Littles loved it.

For this learner, making our own clock sounded like a better idea; and hence, I fostered the ownership of the idea. I smiled, knowing if we worked together on the project, there would be greater, meaningful buy in.

Relationships matter.

I chose a dinner plate from the kitchen cabinet, turned it upside down on cardstock, and traced.

My little learner couldn’t wait to cut along the pencil line.

Next, we searched our sticker collection for numbers, big ones! It wasn’t long before we found them and my little learner eagerly placed them on the freshly cut out clock while I cut out the hands and found a brass brad in the junk drawer. She colored the hands by the time I made it back to the table.

Since our initial introduction to and exploration with the clock, many fun impromptu lessons have blossomed, first learning to tell time to the hour, then the half- and quarter-hour, and finally, minutes. She loves moving the hands to match a given time. To encourage the connection to symbolic representation, I have her use the hands to show the time and then ask her write the time on paper, modeling one or two examples first. We’ve also used the clock to practice counting by five. Our homemade clock has been a welcomed learning resource, and we’re very proud of our crafty accomplishment.

Materials

A dinner plate

Number stickers

Minute hand, cut out of cardstock

Hour hand, cut out of cardstock

Beyond the Paper Clock

It’s important for children to learn to tell time on both analog and digital clocks and watches. With this in mind, we’d purchased our little learner a fun watch, which she picked out among the masses available. Though she was curious about it and about time, the real “need” to know wasn’t strong enough to foster the learning of the concept…at that time. However, when the interest resurfaced, I encouraged.

Investigate other ways to keep time: water clocks, cuckoo clocks, egg timers, grandfather clocks, pendulum clocks, alarm clocks, and stop watches.

Search for clocks in use in public places. This can be a fun way to pass time while waiting in line.

Use the stop watch on your phone to internalize Elapsed time. Children need to know what a minute (or five and thirty) “feels” like, and elapsed time is a hard concept for children to understand. Stopwatches help master the concept. This new found time tool will add spark to afternoon doldrums. Try timing

• cars going down a ramp,

• family members running around the block,

• the length of time it takes to boil water, and

• relay races.

Use an egg timer to brush teeth.

Read picture and non-fiction books about time (extensive list in my book, Cultivating Curiosity)

Hearing the excitement, “I want to learn to tell time!”?

Dig in and make it intentional, real, and relational!

Fast Parenting? Yes, Please!

There is nothing quick about parenting; growing child to adulthood. Though we often try or prefer to make parenting instantaneous through quick sound bites instead of face-to-face conversation and interaction, what’s instantly gratifying isn’t necessarily the most productive. For me, there were days when I wanted fast answers with practical tips and positive results, right now! They would have been highly convenient, but not necessarily helpful to our long-term vision for our family.

I admit, fast, immediate, no-fail solutions resonate with me, especially on full days with lots of commitments and needs. Hence, there were days when I searched and searched, scrolled Pinterest boards and read blogs. Surely someone had encountered my debacle and WON?

• The day dear daughter cut off all her bangs to the root and tried to tape them back on, only to find it would take months and months to grow out. I had no hair tonic to promote growth, though I wish I had. Life lessons noted.

• The morning 30 pounds of laundry powder poured atop three loads of dirty laundry sapped my energy and made me wonder if the entire day would offer similar treats.

• The day dear child asked questions about how to prepare for marriage and I knew the answer would be more than a pat answer or five-minute conversation. Instead, the conversations were many, over years, and eventually led to a beautiful marriage. Definitely not a one-and-done parenting recipe. Instead, the conversations were unique to the situation, nothing I could have borrowed from anyone else. I’m thankful for the times we sat and listened. It mattered.

• The evening, when after months of waiting and visiting, great-grandma passed away and there were a slew of questions. I didn't have the immediate answers we all would have prefered. Conversations and hugs healed hearts as together we remembered Grammy’s impact on our lives; years of togetherness and with-ness.

• The morning our van started on fire in the driveway and our children were concerned we wouldn't have a big enough vehicle to transport us all. I didn't have an immediate answer or a delivery service to provide another vehicle. The process of waiting grew our faith and provided just what we needed.

Fast forward some years with now grown adult children. It has become apparent that the best solutions had no easy answers. There are no quick, fast shortcuts in parenting. My adult children didn't become adults overnight (though at times I wonder where the years went) and the path, the journey, was a process. Their journey to adulthood and my adventure as a mom wasn't picked up at a drive-thru window.

The journey was an aged, slow-cooked process. 

The Power of Experience: Life Beyond the Credits

“What exactly do you mean by More than Credits”?

The title of my high school book has raised thoughtful questions.

l like questions. Questions keep us—parents and learners—pondering, learning, and engaging in dialogue. Questions also keep us processing through our worldview and our thoughts; what matters and prayerfully seeking how to best foster the giftings and interests of our children and teens (even when that looks different than what we envisioned). We should be teaching and modeling for our children the same: pondering, learning, and engaging.

Questions are good. I am glad people are asking.

How did you come up with the title of your book?

The title blossomed from conversations; the dialogues Mike and I have with parents at conferences, workshops, evals, and consults. Our educational backgrounds, research, and personal and professional experiences also weighed heavily in the decision. Mike’s been teaching middle school history for 33 years. My background (aside from homeschooling 27 years) is early childhood education. Together, we’ve graduated four learners from home—two earned graduate level degrees and two are finishing undergrad course work. In addition, we’ve mentored and coached hundreds of families over the past 26 years. We study education, family, and parenting; research and read. Hence, there’s a deep foundation of experience behind why I titled the book More than Credits: Skills High Schoolers Need for Life.

We’re quite familiar with the lack of equipping today’s young adults face. Many are full of knowledge, yet lack practical life skills, problem solving strategies, time management, and experience.

“In the all-too-familiar pursuit of rigorous courses, grades, and college admissions, young adults often lack the motivation, time, and skills needed to understand who they are, what strengths and gifts they were created with or could develop, and how their uniqueness could influence their future as well as the future of others. ”

— Cheryl Bastian, More than Credits

Courses matter. More than Credits doesn’t mean core courses don’t have value. Quite the opposite. Courses are integral to college admission, trade school, entrepreneurship, and most of all, life. However, some of the very courses learners need for life are not being taught or are taking a backseat to courses which will not propel the learner forward in the career or field of choice—for example, an taking an extra core course in science (above what is required for college admission) instead of Personal Finance if the end goal is entrepreneurship or a career in finance. In other scenarios, the courses high schoolers are taking are not the best or recommended courses for a field. An example, a rising senior interested in the field of zoology may benefit more from a marine science course with a biologist involved in research study than an extra foreign language credit. High school is not a one-size-fits-all journey.

Credits matter. More than Credits isn’t setting credits aside or stating they don’t matter. Again, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Credits do matter; but there’s more to learners than the credits earned. Credits feed performance-based worth mentalities, the opposite message that people are created with valuable gifts for a purpose, to be contributors and influencers, leaders and world changers. Our young adults need the skills necessary to walk in those roles.

Experiences matter. Professionals, educators, and parents tell me “graduates are missing experience”. Remember when we were teaching our children as preschoolers and elementary learners? Everyone talked about the importance of experiences—activities and opportunities to learn by doing, learn from people versed in a field. Those days were all about hands-on, discovery, problem solving—real life. The need for experience and application doesn’t change—ever. Experience is a proven teacher with retention rates of approximately 70% (and higher) when people are involved in doing something. Yet, when the middle and high school years roll around, we lean toward the opposite—sit in front of a screen or at a desk, passing tests with minimal to no retention or application. It wasn’t always this way. What are we doing about that known gap? How will teens and young adults get needed experience? More than Credits puts individualized experience and application back into learning. Furthermore, it encourages high schoolers to get out into their fields of interest, through volunteering, job shadowing, professional mentoring, and interviewing. Amid these opportunities, learners are able to gain experience and make valuable professional connections. Often the connections lead to employment, hence the experience future employers require. The activities in More than Credits are about engaging learners in using or discovering strengths and interests while gaining the experience needed for future employment or making a difference in the lives of others.

High school is more than checking boxes and meeting requirements. It’s about experience, gaining knowledge and skills, learning from professionals in a field, applying what’s learned to real-life scenarios. It’s about teens and young adults knowing how to learn, where to find answers, and how to solve problems—being equipped with the needed skill sets and emotional intelligence desired by employers and necessary for success in a career field.

There’s power in experience, an empowerment which can be built on and remain for a lifetime. That’s more than credits!

When Learning Doesn't Have a Paper Trail

Learning is often measured in paper. Thirty-problem speed drills. Handwriting practice sheets. Chapter tests. Lab reports. Paragraph summaries. In and of themselves, these items aren't terrible or wrong. They have their place. However, valuable learning also takes place when there are no visible, tangible traces, especially when teaching young children.

Last spring, we had one of those weeks where significant educational progress was made but not all our activities could not be measured in paper. Our experiences were stellar and our children talked about them with joy and amazing recall. They were life-impacting and applicable. Learning took place, but we didn't have sheets and sheets of paper to prove our efforts. Here’s a glimpse into some of the learning fun we had during the course of the week.

• reviewed number recognition, numbers 1-75, while playing BINGO with great-grandma

• sorted, counted, and rolled coins (collected in the family change jar for our anticipated family night out)

• played the Pizza Fraction Fun game several times and then the younger children cared the pieces off to play “restaurant”

• weighed potatoes and onions on a kitchen scale and compared the weights

• made figures with tangrams (geometry)

• played Scrabble with older learners for spelling

• wrote letters (olders wrote their spelling words) on the driveway with sidewalk chalk

• retold a story we heard someone else tell and then discussed how point of view and experiences determine potential bias

• read three picture books: Blueberries for Sal, Caps for Sale, and The Raft

• read a recipe, followed directions, and measured ingredients

• listened to Jim Weiss stories on CD

• spelled three- and four-letter short vowel words on a whiteboard

• listened to The Tale of Two Cities and The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn (audio books enjoyed by older learners)

• reviewed state abbreviations while driving to grandma's house

• watched bees pollinate flowers

• assembled a floor puzzle of the United States

• listened to me read Meet the Pilgrim Fathers by Elizabeth Payne to the youngest learners

• learned body systems and their functions while listening to Lyrical life Science: Human Body

• discussed the nutritional content of three types of cereal by comparing labels; discussion of fats, sugar, and minerals

• cared for the neighbor's dogs and evenly distributed the money earned with the children who participated

Children were engaged. Learning occurred. There was not a traditional paper trail for these activities. Much of the evidence resided in the minds of my children.

How did we document our learning?

We kept a resource list of books we read, recorded the activities on our log, and took pictures of the whiteboard, tangram creations, games, and completed puzzle.

What I loved most about our week was that we learned together. We were relaxed and enjoyed our conversations. As I read, the children asked questions and we added to our vocabulary. When we needed to be outside, we went. There was joy.

Our learning was

Intentional. Real. and Relational.

And, it mattered.

25 Games to Teach Elementary Skills

Games are a daily occurance in our home. They’re fun. They’re engaging. They’re relational and they’re educational. Games are a WIN WIN and a welcomed rescue to table time. Here’s a few we’ve loved, preschool through elementary.

• BINGO (number recognition 1-75)

• Matching/Concentration (similarities and differences, short-term memory, working memory)

• War - with a deck of cards (matching quantity, more than, less than)

• Dominoes (matching similarities, quantity recognition 1-6, counting 1-6)

• Scrabble Junior (letter recognition, introductory phonics, initial consonant sounds, spelling)

• Uncle Wiggly (number recognition 1-100, counting)

• Guess Who? (critical thinking, problem solving)

• Rush Hour Traffic Jam Logic Game (thinking skills by ThinkFun)

• Hi-Ho Cherry-O (early counting, addition and subtraction concepts)

• Barrel of Monkeys (GREAT for motor skills!)

• Busy Bee (thinking skills, addition, an oldie but goodie introduced to us by great-grandma)

• Rivers, Roads, and Rails (thinking skills, another oldie by goodie)

• World and US map floor puzzles (geography)

• Scrabble Sentence Game for Juniors (sentence structure, spelling)

• Scrabble Sentence Cube Game (sentence structure, spelling)

• Learning Resources Pizza Fraction Fun (fractions)

• Oreo Matching Middles (shape matching)

• Hopscotch (great for motor skills)

• Simon Says (listening and following directions)

• Checkers (thinking skills)

• Hail to the Chief (history)

• RACK-O (counting 1-60, more than, less than)

• Yahtzee (quantity recognition, addition, multiplication)

• Even Steven’s Odd (counting, sequencing, number patterns, addition, and multiplication)

• Somebody Game (human body game)

20 Questions to Check Reading Comprehension Without Paper and Pencil

Question this week—

My child is devouring books. How can I make sure he or she is comprehending what is being read?

Children are like us.

They want someone to take interest and engage in what they are doing, whether they are learning to ride a two-wheeled bike or cheering on their teammates. The same is true when they’re reading a book. There’s something to be noticed, something to learn, something to communicate—it could be the details of the book, or it may be how the reader is feeling or what the book is teaching as it is read. This is reading comprehension.

Reading comprehension can be evaluated in several ways. Most often. people think of reading comprehension as a worksheet of multiple choice questions or a short essay test. For others, it may be a culminating activity to celebrate the completion of the last chapter. However, there’s another option. The reader might want to talk to someone about what’s being read. Often this is the favorite means of determining what level of comprehension is being achieved. It's what I call relational reading comprehension. This method focuses on the reader and the unique perspective or value he or she gained from the selection. These aspects of comprehension are often the most valuable takeaways, yet are the least likely to be sought out.

This method of reading comprehension—a discussion—is more beneficial than most paper and pencil activities.

Here are 20 questions (and a few activities) you can use to check the reading comprehension, orally. Not all these questions will be needed for every book or every reader. Choose the ones you feel are most appropriate for the reading and the reader. The bonus is the child feels like what he or she is doing is important. That matters.

Questions

Where and when does this story take place?

Who is the main character of the book?

Are there any other characters or signifcant figures?

How did the main character relate to the characters?

Does the author help the reader get to “know” the characters? How does he or she accomplish this?

What problem is the main character trying to solve?

How did the main character handle his or her conflict?

What decisions did the main character have to make?

Would you make the same decision? Why or why not?

What do you admire about the main character?

Would you agree with the choices the main character made? Why or why not?

Who is the antagonist?

Does the plot move slowly or quickly?

What keeps you engaged in the plot?

This book you are reading is really interesting. Thank you for telling me about it since I don’t have time to read it. What happened in the plot today?

Were you able to predict how the chapter would end?

Did you learn anything new from this chapter/book?

If you were to recommend this book to a friend, what would you say?

What would you say was the author’s purpose in writing this book?

How would you compare this book with others you read?

Activities

Talk about who the main character is and the decisions he or she has to make.

Draw a picture of the main character, or other character of interest.

Draw a picture of a scene in the book.

Create a new cover for the book.

Write a different ending to the book.

Make a diorama of a scene from the story.

Reading comprehension is important, but the deepening of a relationship is even more important. Sometimes it is easy for us to be hyper-focused on the task or outcomes that we forget there are people involved in the learning process. Our children matter—how they process, what they think, how they internalize what they are learning, and who they are becoming. Reading comprehension is an important skill, no doubt, but let’s not forget the individual processing what’s being read.

Years ago, about eight years into homeschooling, I was doing what I thought to be the “school” thing with comprehension. In addition, I was taking vocabulary and spelling from the content. All effective. All necessary. But with EVERY book? In the midst of “school” that day, my learner looked at me, inquisitive yet with a partial frown. “Do we have to dissect EVERY book I read? I really just want to read this for my enjoyment and not have to stop at every chapter or look up every word.” Genius! I was implementing good educational ideas but destroying the enjoyment of reading. Hmmm? Those words have resonated in my mind to this day, eighteen years later.

There’s balance. Everything is learning, not everything has to be “school”. And, there’s a person in the midst of it all—a person with hopes, interests, and curiosity. I want that person to thrive, not just process through the hoops of evaluative measures.

60 Nature Study Resources to Foster Curiosity in Your Children

YOU can teach science!

When I began homeschooling twenty-six years ago, one of the topics I felt least prepared to teach was science. What if I couldn’t teach my children what they were supposed to learn? What if I missed something important? 

Then came a realization.

Children LOVE being outdoors and they LOVE to ask questions—two factors providing a great foundation from which to work.

Maybe I could teach science?

Years later, I know I can. It’s not about me coming up with great plans and fancy curriculum.

It’s about me fostering the curiosity and providing engaging resources; being available to listen to ideas and help process information.

The same is true today as I embark on another year with a handful of learners, preschool through high school.  

Perhaps you face the same doubts and similar questions.  

You are not alone.

Your learners may be at different ages and stages. You may live in the city.

Again, you are not alone.

YOU can teach science!

This post provides over 60 resources you can use today!

But FIRST, here are some important starting points.

Starting Points for Successful Study

• Find out what your children want to learn, what interests them. Start there.

• If there are no hints, start with animals. Most children love animals, of some type.

• Add real experiences.  Many can be found around your home or community.

• Provide a field guide or two for found treasures.

• Gather a pile of inviting non-fiction and picture books.

Now for the resources

Nature-Related Picture Books

A Nest is Noisy, Dianna Hutts Aston

Miss Rumphius, Barbara Cooney

One Morning in Maine, Robert McCloskey

Owl Moon, Jane Yolen

Roxaboxen, Alice McLerran

Snowflake Bentley, Jacqueline Briggs Martin

The Raft, Jim LaMarche

Nature-Related Non-Fiction Books

Blooms and Plants

From Seed to Plant, Gail Gibbons

How a Seed Grows, Helene J. Jordan

Planting a Rainbow, Lois Ehlert

Stems and Roots, David M. Schwartz

The Carrot Seed, Ruth Krauss

The Tiny Seed, Eric Carle

Tops and Bottoms, Janet Stevens

Insects and Crawlies

About Arachnids: A Guide for Children, Cathyrn Sill

About Insects: A Guide for Children, Cathryn Sill

Ant Cities, Arthur Dorros

Are You A Grasshopper? Judy Allen

Bugs Are Insects, Anne Rockwell

The Ant and the Grasshopper, Amy Lowry Poole

The Honey Makers, Gail Gibbons

Tadpoles and Frogs

About Amphibians: A Guide for Children, Cathryn Sill

Frogs, Gail Gibbons

Frogs and Polliwogs, Dorothy Childs Hogner

From Tadpole to Frog, Wendy Pfeffer

Beaches

About Crustaceans: A Guide for Children, Cathryn Sill

A House for Hermit Crab, Eric Carle

Gulls, Gulls, Gulls, Gail Gibbons

Sea Shells, Crabs, and Sea Stars, Christiane Kump Tibbitts

What Lives in A Shell?, Kathleen Weidner Zoehfeld

Fins

About Fish: A Guide for Children, Cathryn Sill

Feathered Friends

All About Birds, Cathryn Sill

About Hummingbirds: A Guide for Children, Cathryn Sill

Counting is for the Birds, Frank Mazzola, Jr.

Furry Critters

All About Mammals, Cathryn Sill

Field Guides and Resources

A Handbook of Nature Study, Anna Botsford Comstock

Florida’s Fabulous Series

                Florida’s Fabulous Waterbirds: Their Stories, Winston Williams

                Florida’s Fabulous Land Birds: Their Stories, Winston Williams

Florida’s Fabulous Reptiles and Amphibians: Snakes, Lizards, Alligators, Frogs and Turtles, Winston Williams

Take-Along Guides

                Caterpillars, Bugs, and Butterflies, Mel Boring

                Birds, Nests, and Eggs, Mel Boring

                Trees, Leaves, and Bark, Diane Burns

Peterson Field Guides  http://www.houghtonmifflinbooks.com/peterson/

Peterson Field Guide to Reptiles and Amphibians of Eastern and Central North America, Fourth Edition, Powell, Conant, and Collins

Nature-Related Drawing Books for Sketchers and Creatives

Draw 50 Birds: The Step-by-Step Way to Draw Chickadees, Peacocks, Toucans, Mallards, and Many More of Our Feathered Friends, Lee J. Ames

Draw 50 Flowers, Trees, and Other Plants: The Step-by-Step Way to Draw Orchids, Weeping Willows, Prickly Pears, Pineapples, and Many More..., Lee J. Ames

How to Draw Flowers (Dover How to Draw), Barbara Soloff Levy

Supplies and Materials

Brock Magiscope https://www.cherylbastian.com/blog/2016/4/22/owl-pellets-and-a-magiscope-simple-discovery-science

Carolina Biological Supply Company  https://www.carolina.com/ (owl pellets)

Educational Innovators https://www.teachersource.com/ (dolomite samples and owl pellets)

 Nature Gift Store https://www.nature-gifts.com/  (ant farms and live ants, butterflies)

Celebrate Simple Blog Posts

Blog post: Vintage Science Books for the WIN!

Use what is available in the backyard, at the park or beach front, on the porch or pond’s edge—wherever you happen to be.

Porch Science  https://www.cherylbastian.com/blog/2017/5/31/porch-science

Citizen Science https://www.cherylbastian.com/blog/2017/10/22/citizen-science-get-real-with-learning

Puddle Fun https://www.cherylbastian.com/blog/2016/10/4/children-learn-from-puddles

MORE…

We live in a suburban area. Though we have a backyard and a neighborhood to explore, we have to plan and be intentional about visiting state parks, ponds and streams, or the beach. When we travel we look for opportunities which are not typical or available in our area.

We’ve enjoyed

• Bird sanctuaries

• Rainforest exhibits

• Arboretums

• Nature preserves

• State and national parks

• Factories and manufacturing plants

• Museums and displays

• State and county fairs

YOU can teach science!

And, in doing so, you will not only keep your child’s natural curiosity alive, but you will open doors for other discipline areas like math and writing.

Maybe you are thinking. “There could have a WHOLE podcast on nature-related study.” In fact, there is! Check out this conversation I had with Jenni and Jody over at From Cradle to Calling.

When in doubt, remember to remind yourself to look for what interests your child. Start there!

YOU can teach science!

What If My High School Learner Is Interested in Animal-Related Sciences?

As we work with families, animals continue to be a common area of interest. Honestly, little learners tend to carry the same interest. Animals are fascinating. They’re part of our world, in our lives, and they’re real and make learners curious…sometimes continuing well into the high school years.

What to do?

Parents usually ask, “Can we put together a course with the niche interests of our learner in mind?”

First, check what your state homeschool laws require.

Second, if your animal-loving leaner is also an athlete with sights set on college athletics, double-check the NCAA eligibility guidelines.

Third, if there’s a hint of what post-secondary plans may look like down the road, consider those (and realize they change).

With that knowledge in mind, move forward.

Pull Resources

If you’re a proponent of unit study learning, think unit study. That’s really what designing (or allowing the young adult to create while completing an independent study) a high school course is all about—gathering ideas and resources. If you haven’t used unit studies or heard of them, don’t worry! You (and your learner) will get hang of it. It’s really about following in interest.

Determine the possibilities for content. Often, when one of my learners has a working knowledge of a topic, we build on that foundation to get the brainstorming ball rolling. From that starting point, we can list other topics toward which the learner wants to devote time. Sometimes ideas will come from past studies, related textbooks, or nonfiction resources. In the case of animal-related sciences, those topics might include

• Veterinary terminology

• Anatomy & physiology (body systems of specific animals)

• Animal nutrition

• Animal behavior

• Service animal training and care

• Proper exercise of companion animals

• Animal grooming

• Care and cleaning of animal facilities

• First aid for animals

• Disease control

• Animal reproduction (including genetics and gestation)

• Clinical examination procedures and related lab equipment

• Lab techniques

• Veterinary mathematics (dosage and concentration, calculations and conversions)

• Animal welfare and legislation

• Careers in animal-related sciences

We make note of those and begin to keep our eyes and ears open for related educational opportunities.

We’ve experienced the fruit and rewards of this kind of learning. Often, when we get to the end of a season and I step back and reflect, the results are more amazing than I could have planned or imagined. And, (BONUS) the learner is motivated and engaged, and content is retained. WINS all the way around!

Capitalize on Experiential Learning

We have found experiential learning (job shadowing, volunteering, apprenticing, part-time employment in the area) extremely beneficial. Not only are content areas interwoven, but the experience can foster important relationships which may lead to future employment.

In the area of animal science, think about the options

• Volunteer at a zoo or aquarium

• Volunteer at a science center

• Volunteer at an AKC event

• Participate on a research team or in a study

• Apprentice with a dog agility trainer

• Visit service dog training facility or train a service animal

• Work as a pet grooming assistant

• Serve as a vet helper

• Volunteer with the local Audubon Society

• Participate in Citizen Science project

• Work in a pet store

• Work with a breeder

• Serve as a canine foster or rescue caregiver

• Work or volunteer at a horse barn

• Visit and observe venues were animal care and training, office procedures, and professional practices can be observed, for example

  • Equine clinic

  • Canine physical therapy

  • Animal feed manufacturers

  • Equine retirement farm

  • Wildlife conservation center

• Visit colleges and universities offering majors being considered and tour their animal science buildings

Don’t forget about 4H! There are offerings for animal science topics and resources.

Interview Professionals

We’ve also learned from our experience that field trips are extremely beneficial, especially if there is time to interview or talk with professionals in the field. Talking with professionals has been advantageous for our children and teens as they were able to gather insights into the field or learn about the job market outlook. In addition, our learners gained nuggets of content we wouldn’t have known to incorporate. Learning from professionals in the field is beneficial in many ways.

If you don’t have a wide selection of local animal care or service opportunities, consider learning from and about famous vets or others who work with animals. The internet affords plentiful tutorials and professional interviews.

Use Nonfiction/Primary Source Documents/Professional Resources

Online resources—within parameters—offers the ability to learn from primary source documents and professional resources. These can be used to enhance and independent study or reinforce and build on what is being learned experientially through volunteering, job shadowing, apprenticing, or part-time employment. Curriculum guides, course descriptions, textbook table of contents, and materials recommended by professionals in the field can guide and build a course. As you gather helpful nonfiction, primary source, or professional resources, consider these (and more—as your learner digs into content).

• The Georgia Agricultural Education

• CTE Online

• National Association of Agricultural Educators

• AG Daily

• Animal Smart

• Alternative or integrative pet care

• American Journal of Veterinary Research

• Journal of Animal Science

• The Animal Welfare Act, Retail Pet Store Regulations, and more

• The Cornell Lab of Ornithology

• Wildlife Conservation Society

• The Handbook of Nature Study by Anna Botsford Comstock

• Charles Darwin’s On the Origins of Species and other related literature pieces

Look for ways your high schooler can learn about possible careers in areas of animal care and service. Give them space to think outside the box to things like wildlife conservation veterinarians, zoo veterinarians, and animal nutritionist.

Keep in mind, several typical high school courses (biology, marine science and human anatomy and physiology) are beneficial to animal care and health sciences. The content of these classes is related and relevant, often foundational. In addition, some universities require these traditional core course options for admission. Should your learner be considering vet medicine, marine biology, or another animal-related career, be knowledgeable about what universities are requiring (but don’t let those requirements overshadow the richness and depth experiential learning—hands-on—offers learners). Both book knowledge and experience are important.

College and university admission requirements will vary as will the courses each institution requires for degrees. Be informed about these differences as well as be familiar with the professors who teach at schools of interest. What is taught in courses varies professor to professor. If a student has niche area of interest and an influencer in that field teaches at a particular university, take note.

Oregon State offers these suggestions.

Cornell University College of Agriculture and Life Science

University of California - Davis recommendations for high school students

Read Biographies

When we build a course, we often add biographies of people in the field of interest. For starters in animal care and study fields consider James Herriot, Steve Irwin, James Audubon, and Temple Grandin.

Investigate the History

Every topic has a history, a story of how that industry or field changed over time. Animal-related sciences are not different. Adding this aspect to the course can be a fascinating journey.

Tie in English

Parents often ask how to tie in English to niche areas of interest. I encourage them to think real-life. What writing may be a natural part of the career or field. Consider

• Note the study skills. Reading, researching, skimming, note taking, retelling what was learned in a day’s time are all important language arts skills. Often these go unnoticed, yet the repetition of using these important study skills allows the student to become a more efficient learner, not to mention time manager.

• Have the learner write a paper on something or someone of interest. 

• Learn the stylistic form for the academic discipline. Does the content area format in MLA or APA? Learn that format when writing papers for this course.

• Keep a running list of vocabulary and terminology related to the subject—new words which are foundational to further learning.

• Write thank you letters for interview, job shadowing, or volunteer opportunities.

• Write resume entries for an volunteer experience or employment opportunity.

• Add animal-related literature: Just So Stories by Rudyard Kipling, All Creatures Great and Small by James Herriot, and Watership Down by Richard Adams.

Record: Tips for Independent Learning

What do I love about this type of learning (from what we've experienced)? Our children become very knowledgeable about the field and often its niche areas and they run with the learning. If they are learning something independently, based on something they wanted to dive into and are managing their study time, I ask them to bullet point the content they learn (animal behavior, medicines for bacterial infections, etc) and copy any URLs in a Word document. I also ask them to record author and title of any books or online resources they use. In doing so, I have what I need for state records or for documents which might be needed for college admission.

This general format can be used with any topic of interest.

This post is not intended as legal advice or educational counsel. The content is based on the author’s experience. It is the parent’s sole discretion to use this information as he or she sees fit as they fulfill their responsibility as parent overseeing the education of his or her child.

How to Use What You Have: Homeschooling High School Nutrition and Wellness

We’ve adopted a phrase.

Use what we have to boost what we know.

In this season of pandemic shelter-at-home orders—with libraries closed and resources narrowed—we are pushed to look for alternatives. Hence, the above phrase could mean several things.

Use the resources, items, and interests we have to learn something new.

Or

Use the resources, items, and interests we have to deepen, reinforce, and apply knowledge we learned previously.

Today, my mind is on high school, specifically nutrition and wellness!

Parks and gyms are closed. For some, stress eating is a challenge. For others, needed food sources are difficult to find. How do we practice healthy habits in the areas of nutrition and wellness with the parameters under which we are living?

This is where life meets learning!

The conversations about boosting the immune system. The trials and errors of building a personal fitness plan without a gym. The recipe substitutions and related research. The online stretching or aerobic classes.

Learning is taking place.

If your high schooler is engaged in this type of learning, it matters and it’s valuable.

In my book More than Credits: Skills High Schoolers Need for Life, I include practical, applicable, real-life activities to give parents and high school learners a jumpstart toward thinking outside-the-box in the areas of nutrition, wellness, and personal fitness. Ideas include

• Adjust a recipe, considering personal health and dietary needs.

• Utilize an online aerobic workout tutorial to build cardiovascular health.

• Learn how to take, record, interpret, and monitor vital signs (pulse, respiration, and blood pressure).

• Compare standing blood pressure to lying down.

• Calculate personal Body Mass Index (BMI) for each family member.

• Compare heat exhaustion to heat stroke, including prevention, symptoms, and treatment.

• Determine how social, cultural, and emotional influences impact nutrition and health choices.

• Study the effects of stress on physical and mental well-being.

• Research how to keep the body hydrated, determine ounces required, and implement a hydration plan.

• FInd three types of online calorie calculators and compare site features.

• Explain the difference between whole foods and processed foods.

• Research the growing seasons in your area.

• Plant a vegetable or herb garden.

• Enroll in an online culinary course or tutorial series for a specific area of interest: pastry, main dish, gluten-free, keto.

• Clean and restock a freezer or refrigerator.

• Learn how to wash hands properly for food preparation.

• Learn first aid for common kitchen accidents: burns, scalds, cuts, puncture wounds, allergic reactions, and choking.

• Learn how to properly and safely use a gas grill.

• Research and list ways to reduce the severity and exacerbations of autoimmune disease.

This is a sampling of ideas from More than Credits. And, given our current situation and the needs and interests of your learner, you will discover others opportunities which are individually applicable to your family or teen. The outcomes may not be a percentage correct on a test or page filled with fill in the blank questions. Instead, it may be a casual conversation or a task completed together (like cleaning the fridge properly or doing a workout together. The end result will be your teen learning and applying self-care. This is worth more than the credits. It is life-impacting and it matters.

More than Credits includes frameworks, resources, and living book and biographical suggestions for five elective credits: personal fitness, nutrition and wellness, personal development and career exploration, philosophy, and personal finance.

How to Use What You Have: Counting

We’ve adopted a phrase.

Use what we have to boost what we know.

Could mean one of two things.

Use the resources and items we have to learn something new.

Or

Use the resources and items we have to deepen or reinforce knowledge we learned previously.

Today, my mind is on counting!

Everywhere I look in my home there’s numbers—groups and sets. That’s how I want my children to understand numbers, counting—as part of every day. Last week I recorded a workshop - Math Never Tasted So Good—for the Keep Calm & Homeschool On Conference. I love encouraging families to help their children see math in the world. I reflected on the portion of the workshop which focused on counting.

Counting with little learners.

Counting crackers, rocks, trains, or whatever exists in the learner’s environment today leads to understanding of set notation, number operations, and more in the years to come.

How can I use what I have to foster or reinforce this skill?

Use Real. A vested interest sweetens the learning pot. If you think about it, this is true for adults as well. When you want to learn something or have something to gain, the motivation raises the need to master the skill. Where there is an interest or gain, there’s reason to learn. Find out what matters to your children and start there. Think cars, crackers, acorns, crayons, whatever can be counted or made into groups.

Skills

• Count to five by one.

  • Write those numbers in order.

• Make piles (sets or groups) of one, two, three, four, and five.

• Count to ten by one.

  • Write those numbers in order.

• Make piles (sets or groups) of ten.

• Count to twenty by one.

  • Write those numbers in order.

• Count by two to twenty.

  • Write those numbers in order.

• Make piles (sets or groups) of ten and use those groups to count by tens.

• Use dimes to count by ten.

• Count by ten to one hundred.

  • Write those numbers in order.

• Use nickels to count by five.

• Count by five to one hundred.

  • Write those numbers in order.

• Count by 100.

Keep it Real Activities

• Count the oranges in the two pound bag.

• Count the bananas in a bunch.

• Count a specific number of carrots to clean and cook for a meal.

• Count cars as they are put away for the day.

• Set the table - practice one-to-correspondence and counting table guests.

• Count the slices in a pizza.

• Count the tiles across the kitchen floor.

• Use snack crackers to make piles of two. Count by two.

• Make a number scavenger hunt.

• Play hopscotch - write the numbers and then count while hopping.

Counting and Reading Aloud. Counting books have cycled in and out of our home in our learning seasons with littles. Decades as little learners intentional about conquering counting concepts have helped to grow our list of favorites. Noticing some of our favorites are disappearing from the library shelves, I have intentionality purchased copies to add to our home library so we don't lose our loves. 

• How Many Snails? Rich, bold vibrant colors invite little learners to jump in and count! Though counting is the main skill reinforced, attributes, following directions, and processing fair well, too. One of our favorites! Author: Paul Giganti, Jr. 

• The M&M Counting Book. The familiar candies on the front draw readers to the content. Once opened, this book teaches counting through 12, counting sets, and beginning addition and subtraction. Author: Barbara Barbieri McGrath

• Counting is for the Birds. The rhyming text makes this brilliantly illustrated counting-to-twenty book an all-time favorite of ours. Author: Frank Mazzola, Jr.

• Cardinal Numbers: An Ohio Counting Book. Counting 1-14 with beautiful illustrations and real-world word problems on the last pages, this book is one of many in the Sleeping Bear Press series. A favorite for older children, too, as side bars on each page offer additional opportunities for curious learners. Author: Marcia Schonberg

• Great Estimations. An intriguing look at estimating as an advanced counting technique. Great photography, fun examples, and helpful hints for counting objects in large numbers. Great for older learners, too! Author: Bruce Goldstone.

• The Coin Counting Book. Counting takes another journey into the world of coin recognition and value. Great for beginner coin counters who have a piggy bank of coins waiting to be counted.  Another of our favorites due to the interest most kids have in money. Author: Rozanne Lanczank Williams.

• Eating Pairs: Counting Fruits and Vegetables by Two. Reading and learning odds and evens go hand-in-hand with this unique counting book. We love that the numbers are written down the side bar of each page, begging for us to count along...again! Author: Sarah L. Schuette.

• 10 Little Rubber Ducks. Fictionalized counting story of a real-life event presented alongside the classic Eric Carle collage art. Bright illustrations and a intriguing story line. Great addition to the home library, for sure! Author: Eric Carle.

Make a Counting Book. Grab an old magazine, weekly grocery ad, or catalog, cut out groups of objects and make a counting book.

Opportunities for learning and practicing counting skills abound in our days. How can we be intentional, real, and relational about those moments?

How to Use What You Have: Sorting, Classifying, Comparing

We’ve adopted a phrase.

Use what we have to boost what we know.

Could mean one of two things.

Use the resources and items we have to learn something new.

Or

Use the resources and items we have to deepen or reinforce knowledge we learned previously.

Today, my mind is on sorting, classifying, and comparing objects.

Looking at the beautiful rainbow of colors I brought home from the grocery store, I remembered the content of a workshop I video recorded a few days prior (Math Never Tasted So Good for the Keep Calm & Homeschool On Conference). The section which specifically stood on the in the forefront of my mind?

Sorting, classifying, and comparing with little learners.

These skills are foundational pre-number concepts little ones need. What are they?

How can I use what I have to foster or reinforce these skills?

Sorting | Classifying

To arrange in groups, separate according to type or attribute

Sorting and classifying is a natural part of everyday life living alongside our little learners.

• We can sort laundry into darks and lights.

• Silverware can be separated by type as it is put into an utensil drawer.

• As groceries are being put away in the pantry, cans may be placed on one shelf and boxes on another.

• And, those toy cars? They can sorted and parked by color. There are many opportunities for young children to sort as we go about our days.

For beginners, start with one attribute—color, length, height, type, origin—and move to two attributes—color and size, texture and color.

Comparing

To make a determination of difference or similarity based on an attribute, generally to answer a question.

As our days unfold, there are often opportunities to point out comparisons. For example, remember those toy cars that needed to be put away and your little parked them according to color? Well, after parking toy cars by color, take a few seconds to determine

• Which color has the most?

• Which color has the least?

The few seconds taken to ask and count will stick. It matters.

As we ask questions, children become accustomed to seeing differences and similarities in size, color, shape, number, origin, and texture. It becomes a conscious part of the day and having this ability helps set a foundation for learning future math concepts.

Questions we could ask children

• Which person is taller?

• Which shoe is larger?

• Which is block tower is taller?

• Which group has more?

• Which ball has the bigger circumference?

Sorting, classifying, and comparing are closely related to measurement and lay foundations for set notation and computation. In addition, becoming in tune to noticing differences and similarities offers children the opportunity to become keen observers, a skill needed for other content areas including science.

Back to the groceries. After I had put away the groceries, I set out to make vegetable soup. I asked my little learner to find the three tallest carrots in the bag. She wanted to be included and was happy to contribute by helping, and she was learning.

What are some of our favorite kitchen-related sorting, classifying, and comparing activities?

Make vegetable soup: A stalk of celery, two potatoes, an onion, two tomatoes, and three carrots. Weigh each item on a kitchen scale and determine which weighs the most and the least. My littles can find the smallest onion or break off two stalks of celery. Some can help scrub potatoes, carrots, and celery while I begin cutting and adding to the pot. While the soup was simmering, read Stone Soup by Marcia Brown or Growing Vegetable Soup by Lois Ehlert.

Count items. Sort fruits and vegetables. Grapes, apples, oranges, lemons, cherry tomatoes. Which have the most in a set? The least? Make math equations by combining sets. For example, “if we have four apples and two oranges, how many fruits are there altogether?” Write the equation on paper to express the verbal equation symbolically. Read Counting is for the Birds by Frank Mazzola or Animals on Board by Stuart Murphy.

Notice the texture. Pineapples, cantaloupe, oranges, apples. Textures are different. Sort items from smoothest to roughest. Cut open the fruits and compare the texture and seed structure. Make fruit salad or pattern fruit kabobs.

Notice the origin. Different vegetables come from different parts of the plant. Sort vegetables according to the part of plant origin. Clean the vegetables and make a salad. Read Tops and Bottoms by Janet Stevens or The Vegetables We Eat by Gail Gibbons.

Compare length. Purchase a pound of carrots. Arrange the carrots on the counter according to length, shortest to longest. Prepare cooked carrots for dinner. Read Just Enough Carrots by Stuart Murphy or The Carrot Seed by Ruth Krauss.

Plant, observe, and measure. Maybe you have some seeds (or beans) and potting soil on hand. Sprout beans or plant seeds. Observe and notice changes. Draw the plants. Measure every other day and make a graph of the growth (older learners).

Maybe all this talk about fruits and veggies has your learner wanting to learn more about plants. Check out this post.

How to Use What You Have - Geography

We’ve adopted a phrase.

Use what we have to boost what we know.

Could mean one of two things.

Use the resources and items we have to learn something new.

Or

Use the resources and items we have to deepen or reinforce knowledge we learned previously.

Today, my mind is on geography and map skills.

In the era of digitalization and GPS, are geography skills still valuable?

Every family must decide, but our learning experiences have proven to us that this skills are important. Though amazing navigational tools and digital helps make finding our way easy, foundational concepts remain necessary if a person is to have context for conversation and learning. For example, if a child is engaged in a discussion about France, knowing where France is located it essential to understanding the context and content being shared. Likewise, if a child is reading a book set in the Alps, knowing the geographical relevance provides important insight to the characters, setting, and plot.

Geography does matter.

How can we add to our learner’s knowledge, to what they know as well as to what they might want to discover?

If you have a world map, atlas, or globe (ours would require a good dusting!), a child or teen could

• Learn the states and their capitals and label on a printable map.

  • Older learners can learn to spell the states and capitals.

• Find and identify the seven continents - North America, South America, Europe, Asia, Africa, Australia, and Antarctica.

• Locate the major ocean basins - Atlantic, Pacific, Indian, Arctic, and Southern.

• Print a blank map of one of the continents. Locate and label the capitals and five major cities for each country. Draw in any significant land features—mountains, lakes, rivers, and deserts.

• Choose a country. Draw the country flag. Find out what major resources are available in the country. Research major landmarks. Discover the culture and customs. Consider creating a diorama, poster, or Powerpoint of what was learned.

• Research online to find a printable crossword puzzle or word search about a continent of choice. Use your atlas or map to help solve the puzzle.

• Read geography-related picture and non-fiction books.

• Take a trip around the world, together. Divide the family into two teams. Each team will need a map and a scavenger hunt (hit the print button). Based on the ages of your children, choose either a specific amount of allotted time to complete the hunt or simply determine the winner to be the first team to find all the items.

Have maps, globes, geography-related resources? Consider how your family might travel the world while learning or reviewing together.

Every. Moment. Matters. when making use of what’s available.

Learning from Interviews

If your learner had the opportunity to interview a professional, would he or she be prepared?

We can’t possibly know everything about every profession. No one can. However, parents do have the ability to coach middle and high schoolers through the process of being prepared to ask questions, should they find themselves in a situation where they can ask questions.

This is an important step in empowering teens to learn from people in professions of interest.

Let’s say your high schooler is interested in veterinary medicine. Your background is in business and finance.

How do you help your young adult learn more about vet medicine?

Find a trusted professional who is willing to share his or her passion, and then ask. Most people are eager to talk about what they love. In the process, your young adult is afforded a chance to learn about the education requirements, niche areas of the profession, and perhaps the career outlook at the time when you learner will be trying to land a job. Should an ongoing mentor relationship form, there may be a potential connections made for future employment.

Identifying a person who could be interviewed is the first step. The second step, preparation, is key. Intentionality often reaps the greatest reward (another one of those life lessons our high schoolers learn from experience.

Preparing for an interview is essential. If someone carves out time from his or her busy schedule to meet with a high schooler, preparation is a form of respect. The meeting not only allows the learner to glean the most helpful information possible, but also shows gratitude for the professional’s time. Some high schoolers will decide they need help brainstorming a list of questions to be asked. Others may determine there is a need to role play a mock interview. And, there will be some who prefer to work more independently, creating a list and seeking input or feedback once their preparation is complete. This process is another step on the path to discovering how one learns best through the unique benefit of experiential opportunities.

When our high schoolers showed interest in an area and wanted to talk to professionals or tradespeople, we developed a list of questions. Here is a list to jump start the thinking process. I offer a full list in the appendices of my book, More than Credits.

• How did your high school experiences benefit your career?

• Where did you attend college?

• How or why did you decide to choose this college?

• How did your post-secondary studies influence your career?

• Which post-secondary courses were particularly beneficial in your career preparation?

• Is there something you feel would have been helpful—maybe even a different major—than what you pursued?

• How do you see your career field changing in the next five years?

When preparing to interview someone in a trade or technical field, we adjusted our list of questions to address trade-specific aspects of a field. The complete list is also included in the book, but these samples provide a place to start as you and your learner develop a list of questions.

• Did you earn industry certifications and if so, which were helpful to you?

• What should I consider as I research post-secondary education options?

• What skills do you use every day?

• What types of writing do you do in your field?

The high school journey is more than taking tests and finishing study guides.

There is a place for these in education, but it is important to remember these aspects of learning should not overshadow and crowd out some of the most beneficial ways our young adults gain knowledge—through experiential learning opportunities like interviewing professionals.

More than Credits is available on this site or through Amazon.

Cleaning, Learning, and Helping to Write the Chapters in Their Story

I needed to clean the bathroom. My preschooler wanted to hang out with me and needed my attention.

Shaving cream to the rescue.

With four squirts of fluffy goodness on the shower door, my eager little went to work writing letters. I began to scrub the floor. We engaged in conversation and I gave her some letters to practice. When she needed instruction on letter formation, I showed her the progression. She’d go back to writing, smooth over previously written letters, and write some more.

I continued cleaning.

About three-quarters through the scrubbing, my daughter cheerfully exclaimed,

“Mom, this is a great idea! We are such a great team at cleaning the bathroom. When I get to be a parent I am going to give my kids shaving cream and do the same thing.”

I thought she would simply be occupied while I cleaned. Silly me!

At that moment, I was reminded

• children want to be with people of significance, people who care about them

• children catch more than we imagine we teaching them

• parents play an important role in helping to write the chapters of children’s stories—and the stories for generations to come

What I did mattered today. Actually, what I do every day matters in the life of my children.

What you do matters, too.

Every. Moment. Matters.

Siblings: A Lifelong Gift

Sibling relationships matter, in fact they are one of the most influential aspects of our lives.

Fostering those relationships is daily business, woven in and through the moments of our days.

As I pondered how my adult children look at one another, how they intentionally spend time together, recollections of days—our moments together, good and hard—flipped through my mind. I remembered teasing, but I also treasured the view I enjoyed of intense collaboration on a mutual project. And, there were tears. Overshadowing the tears, I smiled with a warm mama heart at baseball dugout high fives.

The collage of snapshots kept filling my mind.

From my current place, the watching on of a mom looking back, I am thankful for the moments—hard and good—intentionality won. There wasn’t a win in every situation, but enough, and they made the difference.

“Open expression of my delight in a child is heard by his or her siblings. The statement of affirmation resonates and situates in the heart. Open expression of delight offers an invitation to see a sibling in a different light, a more positive perspective. Purposeful sharing of genuine gratitude and pleasure—about every sibling, at one time or another—settle and linger, remembered, pondered, and valued. ”

— Cheryl Bastian

I learned long ago (through bumps and trials), I can’t make siblings want to be together. I can’t force them to play a game, nicely side-by-side (that brings grudge) or make them share a toy (that brings animosity). But, I can plant seeds of invitation, words and actions which make being together a wanted, valued gift—and in many situations, a sacrifice of some kind. When sacrifice is chosen, warm heart “that was hard, but I’m glad I made the choice” remains.

What makes an open expression of delight an invitation? Positive comments. Affirming statements. Stories.

“As a mom, I am a conduit of delight, a messenger of an invitation—a lifelong reminder to see the interests and giftings and goodness in a sibling. This is a place worthy of my time and energy. ”

— Cheryl Bastian

I remember making the statement, “I love the way shared your sandwich. You are so thoughtful of your brother.” It was attention brought to generosity. Both listeners benefited—one receiving acknowledgement for the action, the other offered the treat of recognizing his brother’s care. Each smiled and took in the moment.

Laundry spread on the couch; seeing it deflated my confidence. I sat down and began folding. Soon after, a helper made himself known. We sat, folding, talking. When we had conquered the pile, I shared, “I know you went out of your way to help Mom finish the folding. Thank you!” I was truly grateful for the help and the conversation. In the moment of shared gratitude, there was a sense of value and acknowledgement of contribution. Brother’s siblings heard and were partakers in the gratitude—shared gratitude, contribution, value.

These are the invitations dropped in their days—invitations to be grateful, to contribute, and to bring value, to be in the presence of those we love and have the ability to love.

I am a messenger. You are a messenger. Conduits. Notice how a sibling helps another, how they smile at another. Acknowledge. Affirm. Foster. These are the offerings worth our time as we nurture hearts—sibling relationships, a forever gift.

Laundry Tip for Teamwork

A big weekend for us caused an eruption of laundry mountain on our couch.

Laundry mountains can be intimidating for parents and children with this task on their “to-do” list.

No one really wanted to tackle the pile alone.

Teamwork to the rescue!

Seeing the size of the pile brought immediate discouragement. It was larger than usual. I decided to brave the task and take the initiative (though I didn’t really want to). Pushing clean clothes aside, I sat down and began folding towels.

Starting with the bath towels—the biggest items in the mound—the large pile began to shrink, noticeably, faster.

Five bath towels later, progress became evident. Suddenly, the pile seemed amazingly smaller, doable. At that point, I knew I could ask a few helpers to join me and they wouldn’t be quite as overwhelmed.

I encouraged the smaller team members to find the socks and washcloths—something manageable for them. And, I started a conversation with the oldest helper, a subject that mattered to her. Within 10-15 minutes we had mastered the task and began to deliver piles to their destination. Task accomplished, we shared a few high fives and words of encouragement.

Teamwork had conquered the chore and helpers felt empowered by their contribution.

To the dishes…after a snack and some math.

Chores in the High School Years

This year marks another shift in household responsibilities as our fourth child finished high school, our fifth child continues to move through those years, and two young adult graduates reside at home while working and attending college. All of us are trying to figure out the new normal with new courses and work schedules.

Needless to say, this isn’t our first go-round with adjusting to the schedules of our young adult children while also reconfiguring the completion of necessary daily tasks. (In other words, our experience doesn’t always equate to “we got this”).

When our first child entered high school in the early 2000’s we were broadsided with the thought that we might have to adjust his household responsibilities to make allowance for his new, fuller schedule. Most of the families we knew or books we read added to the confusion with their “they still live there, they still contribute” or “if they are not paying rent, they should be helping” advice.

Honestly, I had to unpack these well-meaning sentiments, the application of which seemed to strain and fray our relationship.

I was pretty sure there had to be a better way, a way we could work together to process and find solutions.

Relationships matter to us.

As our oldest entered high school, his days were full based on the choices he made to weave academics, sports, and service. In the later high school years, he took on a part-time job. Managing his time wasn’t an issue. He was navigating that well, but still had a hard time carving out ten minutes here and there to unload the dishwasher or take out the trash. He was, however, trying to work on it. His heart wanted to serve, but his days were full.

The second high schooler mirrored his brother—academics, sports, and service. He also managed to spend time earning badges on the road to Eagle and mentor younger scouts. Later in high school he, too, had a part-time job. Again, there were only so many hours in the day and his heart reflected an attitude of trying to help where he could. His days were full.

Enter young adults (now graduates) three and four. Different scenarios, different circumstances, same well-intentioned hearts. Again, we are finding the process worthy of mutual care and respect as we find a balance between school, work, and life. It’s a life skill, not something to be demanded or placed upon. And, we get to walk alongside.

But there’s the advice and pressure from other parents. So hard!

I wondered if there were other families facing similar ponderings.

I wondered if our processing would help others in their walk through. On my journey, I came face-to-face with these thoughts:

• Our high schoolers only has so much time in the day (a real truth for all of us). If I were in any of their shoes (and I have been), I would want someone to coach and process with me, not continue to place demands.

• Our high schoolers were using time wisely (to the best of their current ability), weaving work and school responsibilities. Again, having been through similar scenarios in life, I remembered I LOVED when people offered grace and an extra hug when I made a mistake and had to try again.

• When I find myself in a new life season (birth of a baby, health concerns, family needs) it takes me time to adjust. Why would it not be the same for my teens and young adults?

• Our high schoolers are willing to serve when they are able and obviously high school academics, sports, and service require more time than years prior. How can I be understanding instead of adding pressure?

• Our high schoolers are in the process of navigating a real-life scenarios - balancing work, school, and life (an important skill which doesn’t happen overnight). I have the ability to believe my high schoolers will figure this out. They need me to be a cheerleader (with my affirming words) of their efforts.

In the meantime, I discovered

I may have to do a few extra dishes or collect a few extra trash cans. My pondering brought understanding and empathy, potential ways for me to walk alongside as teens and young adults process their shifts in responsibility and life seasons.

My support is more meaningful and helpful than my nagging. My teens and young adults are not any different than I. We face some of the same life challenges and temptations. When I face a snag in life, I’m grateful for understanding, connection and communication verses anger, discouragement, and silence. Alibet, I do appreciate if I am doing something wrong or hurtful (sinful) that someone close to me would help me see the blind spot (another life lesson).

I am still learning (even as I adjust to our fourth graduate’s and our fifth high schooler’s new schedules). I don’t always navigate this process gracefully (though it is my heart to do so) but I am getting better at it. Truthfully, It’s hard to set aside the well-meaning sentiments of “he owes it to us” or the “you don’t have time to add this back on your plate or figure out how to adjust to his new stage of life” mentalities that I hear.

Fifteen years into the process of walking new life seasons with young adult children, I am still pondering, pondering deeper thoughts, thoughts that are important to family life, thoughts I now understand better. They matter! Every. Moment. Matters.

Learning from Life: Hurricanes and Drills

Hurricanes. Cordless drills. Pop.

This is what’s in our world this week.

This is what’s on the mind of my middle schooler.

Real and relational learning.

Connection and application.

Motivation and retention.

The past week has found our family face-to-face with Hurricane Dorian preparation. There’s been forecasts and projections. Models and movement. It’s in our world and it matters to our children (even if we intentionally keep the television off to lessen possibilities of news overload).

What matters, sticks.

Enter Pop with a bag of drills he brought over in case we needed to board up. Our middle schooler bounced to the foyer. Not only because she admires her grandpa, but because he had something of interest. Drills!

Pop sensed her curiosity (one of the things we love about him). He immediately bent down, unzipped the bag and began telling her stories. As he pulled out each drill, he told her what he appreciated about the functions of the model and mentioned a few jobs it could complete. He talked about his bits and offered explanations of why each might be useful. Oh, and he mentioned the model big brother owned.

Real-life show and tell happened in my foyer.

It was real and relational.

Drills. They’ve been on her mind from the first mention of boards going on the windows. It’s been over for over 72 hours and she’s still pondering, researching, planning. Her learning journey included opportunities to

• navigate the internet safely to find information

• ponder other information resources (enter two uncles—each with construction expertise—and more relational moments)

• conduct impromptu, informal interviews with uncles and more conversations with Pop at family dinner

• build reading comprehension, skimming, and scanning skills

• compare costs of drills (and the value of the accessories in combination sets)

• compare the specifications and applications for drills, hammer drills, and mixers

• research differences in voltage

• review and compare measurements as related to bits (1/4, 3/8, 1/2, 5/8, and 3/4)

• build vocabulary: lumens, mortar, thinset, ratchet, lithium, warranty, stud, joist, asset and torque (great Scrabble word!)

• spell words related to her searches (there’s been a lot of “Mom, how do you spell?”)

• use computation skills to figure out what’s in her savings and what she spent over the past months

• predict what she may make in the future

• ponder ways to gain needed income

Drills. They’re in my middle schooler’s world. They’re real and relational. She’s diving in and digging deep.

Her interest matters!

What’s in the world of your children or teens?

What matters to them?

Take time to ponder, observe, and listen.

Likely there’s learning—rich meaningful, memorable learning taking place. Don’t let it go unnoticed.

Every. Moment. Matters.